Helicopter Parenting: What is Helicopter Parenting

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What do you call a parent who hovers on her children with an over-powering and intimidating presence? How do children feel about such parents who often nag them with a negative kind of presence? A parent who is usually physically present with her children with a sense of domination is referred to as a “helicopter parent.” Over-parenting with a feeling of “deep control” is a classical sign of helicopter parenting. More often, children might get a wrong feeling of their parents who show the signs of helicopter parenting.

Helicopter parenting is a negative type of parenting when parental fear plays major role in a parent's life. Although, these parents helicopter-control their children with a sense of care and affection, the method that is chosen by them is felt as wrong by many experts. In fact, children who face helicopter-parenting in their childhood may become negative and fearful in their adult life.

In the end, parents who hover around their children too closely and who expect to fight for their children's survival even for mundane things might spell disaster for them! Stop helicopter parenting and free up your children today to allow them to learn the art of living independently. All the best.

Thought for today:
"Plenty of people miss their share of happiness, not because they never found it, but because they didn’t stop to enjoy it." - William Feather

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What is Helicopter Parenting?
A helicopter parent is an intrusive parent, who keeps hovering around children to control them and their activities. More often, this type of parent wants to do everything for her children. Click to learn more.

Negative Consequences of Helicopter Parenting and Ways to avoid them
Helicopter parenting is counter-productive and detrimental to children. Parents may need to avoid and control this parenting style to prevent children from becoming excessively dependent on their parents. Read the article to learn more.

Q1: My son recently was assessed in Canada with the WISC IV and WIAT III. Both his WISC and WIAT results (as printed in the report) stated he was average, but when the psychology presented the results she said he is two to four grade levels above his current grade, and in one area (pseudoword decoding) scored higher than grade 12. She insisted he needs much more challenging academics (aka a gifted program), but the school looked at the results and argued that his results are average...

A: I can understand your confusion especially when the school says one thing and the psychologist is saying another. For the school, there is no confusion, as they would go based on the scores on both the WISC-IV and the WIAT-III. Unfortunately, the gifted admission programme typically admits children based on stringent criteria such as the cut-off point..... Continue to read Dr. Sandhu's answer on Confusion Over Test Results & Interpretation here.

Q2: Short history of my step son. He is 2 year and 4 month old, when he born with smile after short time of birth. We not train him for speaking, seating, walking. His habit of toilet etc like us, no crying no make any demand and always in smiley. Once he was shown any picture, any person, any location, any story, any shop or mall he remember everything....

A: Your son does demonstrate some advanced ability and could possibly be gifted but it is too early to tell and it is best not to label him at this stage. Whatever it is, what you need to do is to be aware of his gifts and do as much as you can to nurture his gifts further... Continue to read Dr. Sandhu's answer on Advanced Ability here.

The Overparenting Epidemic: Why Helicopter Parenting Is Bad for Your Kids . . . and Dangerous for You, Too!
By George Glass, MD and David Tabatsky

Whatever we label it, overparenting - anxious, invasive, overly attentive, and competitive parenting - may have finally backfired. As we witness the first generation of over parented children becoming adults in their own right, many studies show that when baby boomer parents intervene inappropriately - with too much advice, excessive favors, and erasing obstacles that kids should negotiate themselves - their “millennial” children end up ill-behaved, anxious, narcissistic, entitled youths unable to cope with everyday life.

Written by a noted psychiatrist and a parenting specialist, The Over parenting Epidemic is a science-based yet humorous and practical book that features an easy-to-read menu of pragmatic, reasonable advice for how to parent children effectively and lovingly without overdoing it, especially in the context of today's demanding world.

Helicopters, Drill Sergeants, and Consultants Book & CD Set: Parenting Styles & the Messages They Send
By Jim Fay

I have two addictions- kids and psychology. It's pretty easy to figure out why I grew addicted to kids, but with psychology it's less obvious. I became addicted to psychology because I grew up learning how to use power, and I finally got tired of fighting with everybody. In place of power, I'm suggesting some practical and usable tools for parents and teachers that are adapted from formal psychological concepts.

What kind of a parent are you? A hovering helicopter, demanding drill sergeant or a caring consultant? Each parenting style sends a powerful message to your child about what he or she is or is not, capable of. Parenting expert and humorous storyteller, Jim Fay, helps you identify your parenting style, then shares practical stress-free techniques for becoming a consultant parent. Jim Guarantees you'll enjoy being a parent again!

The importance of good food on your baby's development
The Independent July 05, 2014

It is never too early to tune into infant's nutrition especially if you are planning a family, as healthy brain growth in children begins before conception. For example, folic acid (400mcg) should be taken 14 weeks before you get pregnant, and that’s because folic acid has been linked specifically to early brain functioning.

Large, fine motor skills important to kids' development
The News Leader July 04, 2014

Physical development is the domain that includes large and fine motor skills. This domain not only includes walking, skipping and writing, but the corresponding skills of crossing midline, integrating the hemispheres of the brain and the visual tracking skills for later reading ability.

Study examines how cellphones affect children's brains
WCAX June 12, 2014

Children today are exposed to cellphones at a very early age. Researchers in Britain want to know what effect all that talking and texting may have on a child's developing brain.

Brain-boosting activities to avoid the ‘summer slide'
GM News June 03, 2014

With summer approaching, many parents worry about how to keep their children's brains occupied with something other than TV, video games and tablets. It's a legitimate concern, as kids lose an average of two months of grade-level equivalency in math computation skills and 25 percent of their reading skills over the summer.

Gifted Kids: Tips for summer fun, learning
WRAL June 19, 2014

As a resource teacher for gifted children, I am asked regularly by parents, “What can we do at home for our child?” Just like with any form of parenting, there is no guide book! But, I have tried to put together just a few suggestions.

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