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Hi,
I would like to share this short poem on Children (the principle on how they should be brought up) with you. It captured my heart when I read it. If only all parents keep this in mind when dealing with children .... I am sure the world will be a much better place ;-). And for each of you, remember you were a child once.....

On Children
by Kahlil Gibran

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children."

And He said:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

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Q1: My 19 months old daughter is a whiz in mathematics. This may sound unbelievable. She spoke her first words when she was only 6 weeks old and progressed rapidly ever since. By the seventh month, she could identify all the basic colors, the alphabets (both small & capital letters) and many pictures of common objects. Soon, I found myself teaching her basic algebra after she memorized the times table (1 to 12) over night. She was only 40 weeks old then. My question is: Is there any risk of burning out? Sometimes, I feel she is the one who is dragging me along on this incredible ride. She is to difficult to handle if she finds herself in a rut. Thanks a lot.

Q2: My high school student (son) scores really high on standardized test, but fails many classes? For example on the Terra Nova he scored above average in every subject area, 98% in reading .... total score 95%. What direction would you recommend for a bright 17 year old who may not graduate from high school? How much weight should I give to these test results?

Q3: My child has been IQ tested an is gifted, however, she refuses to read or do anything to better herself. She is a good soccer player but most of the time she walks on the field. We have asked her if she want to quite after every season and she says no. She is only 8 years old and we have tried being supportive of her and also using privilege in order to get her to read and work hard at her tasks. Nothing works. She does not seem to care about anything.... Do you have any advice?

Making the Brain Body Connection: A Playful Guide to Releasing Mental, Physical & Emotional Blocks to Success (Paperback)
* By Sharon Promislow
* Review: 5 Stars

This is a unique book that makes recent knowledge from brain studies and kinesiology so accessible to anyone with interest in this area. The illustrations and text complement each other in providing a basic understanding of our brain/body communication, stress and our electric body.

They also help us to master very practical exercises (many borrowed from Brain Gym) for balancing and integration. This is an essential book for all parents and teachers. Future education can no longer neglect the brain/body connection.

Your Baby Can Read, Set 1
* Studio: Infant Learning Co.
* Starring: Dr. Robert Titzer
* Review: 5 Stars

One customer review: My Baby Can Read!!!

My daughter is 13 months and can read more words than I can keep up with. These DVD's are amazing!!! I promise if you follow the parent instructions your baby will learn how to read and recognize letters very easily. I bought the DVD set, when my daughter was 4 months old. She has watched it everyday twice a day ever since and still LOVES IT. She started to clap at 9 months and could read the word clap at 9 months old. She learned all her body parts at 12 months: eyes, ears, nose, mouth, teeth, tongue, neck, mouth, belly, toes, feet, and hands. She can read all the body parts as well. She has even learned big words like elephant and animals. She cannot yet pronounce all the letters, but this will come. This DVD has helped her learn everything faster. I have incorporated sign language and she easily learns a sign after a week. She can sign, book, more, eat, hot, and itsy, bitsy spider.

I can go on and on about what she can do, but more importantly these DVDs open you up to what BABIES can learn at an early age. I feel there is nothing that I cannot teach her as long as I do it in a fun and playful way.

EQ tests: smarter than IQ?
Seven.com.au Sep 20, 2005

The 15-minute emotional intelligence test has been heralded as the best measuring stick for how children will progress. It may overtake the IQ score.

Junk food diet 'makes children badly behaved'
Daily Mail May 3, 2005

Diets high in processed foods are causing bad behaviour and learning difficulties in children, scientists have warned. They claim junk food stops the brain working properly, leading to underachievement and a host of disorders.

A child's personality comes mostly from genes
The Morning News Sep 21, 2005

To the surprise of many — especially parents — behavior geneticists have determined that our unique personality is mostly a dice roll of our parents' collective gene pool. Our genetic influence is responsible for 40 percent to 50 percent of our individual variations in personality traits. The home environment, parental and sibling influences altogether account for less than 10 percent.

Study uses computers to train young brains
Columbia Daily Tribune Sep 28, 2005

The use of special computer games to train their brains improved healthy youngsters' ability to pay attention, scientists reported Monday.

Study Suggests Using Special Computer Games May Improve Children's Ability to Pay Attention
Newsinferno.com Sep 27, 2005

The last decade has seen a dramatic upsurge in the number of children diagnosed with various attention deficit disorders. Along with these diagnoses come drugs to "cure" the attention problems. A study at Cornell University's Weill Medical College used technology, instead of drugs, as a therapy for attention problems.

DHA in breast milk boosts brain
BetterHuman Sep 22, 2005

If you want to boost your kids' brain power, consider boosting DHA levels in their breast milk. A new study published in the Journal of Pediatric Psychiatry has revealed a positive correlation between DHA (docosahexaenoic acid) levels in breast milk and newborn neurobehavioral function.

Lead Found in Children's Lunch Boxes
FoodConsumer.org Sep 18, 2005

A back to school warning: Children's vVinyl lunch boxes can contain dangerous levels of lead. The level of lead in one lunch box, an Angela Anaconda box made by Targus International, tested at 56,400 parts per million (ppm) of lead, more than 90 times the 600 ppm legal limit for lead in paint in children's products.

Anxious pregnancies produce stressed children
DeHavilland Sep 28, 2005

Mothers who experience significantly stressful or anxious pregnancies, have children who may be more likely to develop psychological problems, a British study has shown.

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