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Slow Parenting - Leisurely, yet Effective and Productive!

By Andrew Loh

Slow parenting would be effective only when parents make a sincere effort to set the entire process in motion and create an environment that is conducive to the entire exercise. Slow parenting is a leisurely style of parenting where every decision is taken after careful consideration and calibrated actions. Slow, steady and calculated - that is how this works for you.

While slow parenting is about out a series of solutions to find out much needed peace and solitude, it never offers instant solutions that could come as a bolt from the blue sky. It is about change that is positive and productive. While the father takes the center state in handling the children's nurturing, mother would become a constant watcher and a careful warden to steer the boat in the event of any rough weather. Slow parenting is also about setting up equations among different members of the family.

Slow parenting relates to deriving good ideas that are workable at home. It would help parents find different ways to set up meaningful family connections and allows the family to have a great ride in the times of turbulence and emotional upheaval.

Slow family living is a new idea that forces all of us to think about the following:

  • Ask consistently what that idea is and inquire as to whether that idea works for everyone.

  • Devising the ways to create a life that everyone in the family loves and cherishes.

  • Letting everyone know that each one of them have their options and choices.

  • Force everyone to make their own decisions.

  • Make everyone think that they are free to do things that they think are right for the entire family.

  • However, make sure all of the family are involved in the decision making process just to see that the ideas is good for everyone.

  • Force everyone to keep the spirit of family intact and on priority.

  • Make sure that all children think in a radical manner that is different than the conventional ways that they were doing different things.

  • Trust everyone but have enough freedom to offer useful suggestions.

  • Learn to appreciate others for their ideas and suggestions and accept those that they feel are good for the family.

  • Believe that family life could be enjoyable and fruitful.

  • Make sure that balance in life is the most useful key for contended life.

  • Believe that starting slow and steady is good for the family.

  • Making things easy for everyone and driving way the word “difficult” from the family dictionary.

  • Allow enough time to ponder and glance over what children have done in the past and find out ways if things could be done in a more productive manner.

  • Schedule learning activities at a pace that is workable for children.

  • Believe that everyone in the family is important for others.

  • Develop a principle that no one will abandon the other member of the family.

  • Set in a motion a principle to defend others' actions so long they are not detrimental to the interest of the family.

  • Allow children to develop newer ideas and fresher opinions about family life and their classroom.

  • Ask them to develop their own skills of handing crises and emergencies.

  • Convince them that they are responsible for their actions and that they are free to contact others for additional ideas and suggestions.

  • Slow parenting is a life time process and everyone should understand this basic axiom.

  • Allow children to debrief their mind whenever they are ready. For example, they may have their own ideas and conclusions about things that happened in their classroom. Give some time for them to summarize their mind and let them tell you about their future ideas and expressions.

  • If they are negative in life, try to correct them by saying that positivity is always better than negativity and that effort to be either positive or negative is same. So, focusing on creating positive thoughts is far better than developing negativity.

  • Always be a present parent meaning that you should be present there whenever your children need you.

  • Spare some free time at the end of the day and week to allow your children enjoy the fruits of the labor that out in the week. Appreciate them for their sincere efforts.

  • Encourage them to create their own emotional setting to think about their future and career plans. Set out a session in the weekend to find out what they want to become in their life.

  • Give sufficient freedom for them to work and act. But, warn that they should not take their freedom for granted.

Slow parenting is a combination of different ideas. It means that parents are using a variety of techniques and methods of useful parenting to create their own style. However, none of the ideas created signify a sense of urgency. Rather, everything is done at an easy pace and acceleration.

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The hectic pace of everyday life can keep families constantly on the go, but removing some of the frenzy is easy—if you just take a moment to slow down. Hit the pause button on all of life's daily distractions and reconnect with your family in familiar and exciting ways.

Parenting and family expert Susan Sachs Lipman shows you the enormous benefits of having a slower paced, more connected family. Packed with simple, affordable, and delightful games, crafts, and activities, Fed Up with Frenzy will help you spend more distraction—free time with your children.


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