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How to Prevent and Stop Bullying at Schools?

By Andrew Loh

It is more likely that one of your children may be facing one or the other forms of bullying at school. Bullying is common in almost schools in the world. The most common form of bullying is verbal abusing, intimidating and taunting. If you see that your children are facing bullying situations, then you may want to remember the following points:

Bullying is not your children's fault! Convince your children that bullying is not their fault. Tell them that they should not feel ashamed of themselves. In addition, you may also want to encourage your children to face bullies with courage and conviction. Tell your children that you are proud of them. Also, tell them that they have many wonderful qualities with them. Ensure that you are there to help your children. Take your children to their classroom teachers and talk about bullying. If your children are feeling frightened and scared, encourage them to come out of the stressful situations.

General tips to prevent and stop bullying in schools

Sadly, there is no one single quick fix solution to control or prevent bullying. Bullying is always invisible and occurs in the background. It could occur in a lunch recess or in a playground when children are playing. Bullies are very intelligent and smart and they will do anything to protect their identities. Train your children to learn how they can face bullying situations.

Tip #1: Educate and train your children about bullying. Your children (for that matter all children) may not know what bullying is and how they can face a bullying situation. Most children fail to read the social signs of bullying. In today's wired world, there is a growing trend that bullying has now entered the social media world in the form of cyber bullying.

Tip #2: Keep in touch with your children's class teachers. Visit them as often as possible. Inquire about incidents of bullying in a discreet manner. Talk to them about your children and find out if someone is bullying them.

Tip #3: If your children are facing bullying from someone, you can contact the bullying children directly and try to convince them why bullying is bad. Try to be polite with them because they are children just like yours. They might be facing some problems in the home and in fact, they might be bully victims themselves. If they are adamant, then you contact their parents and try to solve the problems at their level.

Tip #4: Bullying at schools should be considered with all seriousness because it involves many people at the same time and in a psychological manner. Make sure that you involve the head of the school, the concerned class teacher and the PTA of the school.

Tip #5: Sit down with your children and try to explain what bullying is and how it affects children. You should tell them how bullies approach and cause verbal and physical harm. In addition, train your children to react to bullying by informing you at the earliest.

Tip #6: Many bullied children are bullies themselves! This is a serious situation too. You should try to find out if your children are bully by themselves. Training your children who might be bully in their heart requires lot of attention and focus. Try to be a great mentor by educating your children about the dangers of becoming a bully.

Tip #7: Talk a lot to your children. Be a good listener. You can ask about classroom, their peers and friends. Discuss about their best friends and in what manner they treat your children. Similarly, ask your children if they had any bitter experience in the classroom on a particular day.

Tip #8: Watch out for deviant behavior. At times, bullied or victims may become violent by themselves. This aggressive behavior might result from sheer frustration of facing continuous bullying in the school.

Tip #9: Children should never fight with a bully because it may lead to bodily injuries and severe consequences. Teach your children the ways to respond to bullying situations. Tell them to contact the head of the school as quickly as possible in case someone is bullying them. Suggest your children to stay with their closest friends so that they can avoid bullying most of the time.

Tip #10: Preventing bullying is a team effort. You should involve the school authorities, class teachers, parents and others to control the menace. You should concerns toward other children who are being bullied just like your children.

Always remember that early intervention is the best form of cure. With timely action, you can prevent other serious problems like depression, anxiety and low self-esteem in your children. Never ever, allow your children to handle the bullying problems alone.

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