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Effective Discipline Techniques that Actually Work for Your Children - Part IIBy Andrew Loh There are several ways with which parent can deal with misbehavior in their children. Here are some of them: Know your children's limitations You should be aware of what your children are capable of and what they can do. Development milestones for children are different. All children would have their own weaknesses and disadvantages. A session of misbehavior could be genuine for a child because she or he may not know how to follow your instructions. In fact, they may not even understand or comprehend what you say to them. Misbehavior could be a result of frustration and disappointment Sometimes, a child might misbehave if she or she is extremely disappointed and frustrated. For example, this usually happens in older children. A low grade in school may be one of the reasons for misbehavior at home. Alternatively, it could also arise because of peer pressure in school. Knowing the exact reason for misbehavior could be very good technique. Under such circumstances, parents may need to encourage their children so that disappointment and frustration go away from their mind. Stick to your decisions Once you make up your mind, never deviate from it. Promises should be kept alive while rules ought to be maintained. However, be realistic and truthful to your actions and never be too harsh or rude. Do not accept failure nor withdraw from your action Temper tantrum displays are common among children. Your children might throw a fit of anger if she or he does not get what they want. Do not allow temper tantrum to success and avoid this situation by not accepting bad behavior. Be consistent in your approach Do not change your ground rules day by day. Stick to a working method and allow it to happen. Frequent changes might confuse children and you may fail to see the results you always wanted. Respect your children's feelings and personality Show a hint of respect towards your children's feelings. However, never waver from your actions. For example, your girl child might have been playing with her friend by using her toys. After her friend leaves your home, your child may not pick up her toys and keep them in their original place. Now, you may like to say “I respect your feelings that you are little bit sad now because your friend has gone back to her house. However, it is your duty now to place all those toys back where they belong.” Give her one chance to follow your instructions. If she refuses to obey, just lock all those toys in a cupboard and tell the child that she will not get her toys for playing at least for next two days. Find out where you went wrong and rectify mistakes immediately All of us are humans and we commit our mistakes from time to time. If you did not handle a situation well today, do it correctly tomorrow. Try to improvise on your methods on a daily basis. If a mistake is genuine, do not worry unnecessarily about it. If you commit a blunder, make sure that you apologize to your children. This will enhance your stature in front children. Caution: Spanking or hitting your children could be very bad for their future. Avoid spanking your children. Spanking has its own disadvantages some of which are given below:
In a way, spanking can never make your children learn good behavior. Instead, it leads to increased instances of misbehavior and occasional fit of anger that could be destructive at times. Here are some negative techniques that could be counterproductive and negative:
Here are some techniques that actually work:
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