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- By Inderbir Sandhu, Ph.D


Assist Your Children Handle Their Emotions

By Andrew Loh

It is so heart-breaking to see our children shout with anger, get disappointed and throw temper tantrums because of some unknown reasons. Some parents wonder what is really wrong with their children, while a number of others start to worry and start wondering whatever has happened to their children. In many cases, children who face emotional problems feel angry, scared and demand parent's help and assistance. The way in which our children think and act is entirely different and it is up to you to teach and train your children how to manage their feelings and emotions as they grow up in their life.

Children keep learning new things and they also react to new situations and scenarios in their own way. In the process of learning new things, they may also encounter new ones that they do not understand and comprehend. One of the hottest topics of recent years has been the issue of EQ or emotional intelligence, which may be a notable factor that predicts and determines your child's success in school, adult life and developing personal relationships. In fact, it is believed that emotional intelligence is far more important than intelligent quotient (IQ).

As a parent, you can help your child develop a stable and robust mind to encounter any stressful and turbulent situation. You can also help your child develop skills and techniques that are so necessary in dealing with extremely big feelings so that they find it very easy to deal with any scenarios as well as get along well with others.

Here are some useful tips to help your child develop stronger and tougher emotions:

Initially, you may help you child to know and indentify their feelings. You may also need to help them become more self-aware by teaching them naming those situations that are likely to be potentially stressful and emotionally turbulent.

Likelihood of getting disappointing grades in the class: If you perceive that your child is going to get low grades, you can help your child by urging him or her to notice and understand the debilitating effect of getting low scores. Make your child understand that a single instance of getting low grade is not the end of the world. Encourage your child to acknowledge the incident and help him or her cope with the disappointment.

Teaching your children the ways and methods to manage and administer their moods, feelings and emotions when they are upset with an external stimulus, will help them grow up in a responsible and committed way.

When you perceive thdat you child is extremely stressed and emotionally turbulent, you can help him or her recuperate from the stressful situations. Spend some time cajoling your child. Utter a number of encouraging words and express your love and affection so that he or she feels confident and courageous. Let your child find ways to cheer up! Your child can learn to jump and dance to a music number!

Children always want to imitate adults! They may get frustrated because they are too small and lack the required skills and strength to perform tasks suited for adults. If they fail to perform an adult task, they may feel embarrassed and ashamed of their weakness. What they need at this juncture is ample encouragement and support from you.

Your young child may face problems while wearing his trousers or putting the lid back on a box. You may need to help your child handle such frustrating situations by agreeing about how tough and difficult it is for him or her and later teach the basic tricks to perform the task all by him or herself.

Teach your child the habit of competence which eventually allows him or her build confidence as well as emotional stability. You may also need to teach your child the necessary skills for getting along well with his or her peers and elders. But, remember that learning all these things may take a lot of time. Learning to be emotionally stable is a lifelong habit. As a parent, your may need to direct your energy and effort towards enabling and empowering your child to cope with everyday emotional disturbances and occasional upheavals. There are several methods that help you boost your child's emotional intelligence and many of them come through daily interactions within the family ambience and environment. In many ways, we have the ability to offer the best of emotional support to our children. Nevertheless, we may lack the finer aspects of life that nudge our children to learn the ways and methods that ensure complete emotional stability and coherence.


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