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The Secrets to Raising a Smarter Child
- By Inderbir Sandhu, Ph.D


Discipline Techniques for Children that Work

By Andrew Loh

When you try to control your children, you can always expect a strange kind of reaction from them. The use of assertive power between you and your children always involves a two-way communication ĘC parents asserting their power and their children trying to show their reactions to the asserted power. Remember that your children may never do what you want them to do. When your child misbehaves or shows instances of indiscipline, you may need to devise methods to tackle and correct. All children must show some basic norms of behavioral rules and minimum expectations to assist themselves learn appropriate behavior. Now the big question is, how you teach your children those important rules and what will you do, in case your children break those rules.

Teaching discipline to your children is always very difficult and dicey! After all, we are dealing with human emotions of two or three individuals that can vary considerably. Parents may wish to sit down together and discus about ways and methods to handle their children's wavering discipline. Keep in mind that teaching discipline is not a matter of punishing your children, but empowering them with the right type of education. Learning to obey some basic rules will not only help your children in their future, but also establish their good credentials in front of other people.

Once parents establish some basic rules, they may wish to explain and describe their children that any rules broken will have some rigid consequences. In some simple words, you can drive home those points:

  • Here are your basic rules

  • You need to follow these rules

  • When you follow these set of rules, these may things may happen to you

  • However, when you break these rules, these consequences may happen to you.

You children are too young to comprehend issues. Therefore, you will need to sit down with your children and explain them the bad consequences of misbehaving in an unruly manner. You will also need to demonstrate them the about consequences of indiscipline and how it affects their career. You will also need to let your children know about all those rewards that come in their way, when they behave in a disciplined manner.

Tip: Supporting all positive type of behavior and mannerisms will help your children grow in a positive and desirable manner. You may also wish to enforce consistent and predictable behavior in your children, while praising is perhaps the most cherished action by parents.

Your children always get their share of learning from experiences. When your children learn about the logical consequences of misbehaving with you, then they may start behaving in a proper manner. Here are some examples of instances of misbehavior and their logical consequences:

  1. Children quarreling for TV and Video game time ĘC Remove the cables from the system.

  2. Deliberately s pilling milk and beverage or dirtying dining table ĘC Make them clean it.

  3. Spoiling or damaging toys ĘC Lockup the toys in a safe place.

Tip: When you delay or suspend the privilege of experiencing a thing, your children will learn the basic of discipline and good mannerism.

You can use a number of methods to discipline your children. The main goal of disciplining your children should focus on raising well-adjusted and well-trained children who are:

  • Self-reliant,

  • Self-controlled, and positively curious

Effective parents also display a number of positive traits like:

  • Understanding their children's immediate needs and requirements

  • Knowing and differentiating right from the wrong

  • Not using physical force while teaching discipline to their children

  • Set workable rules and regulations with a firm hand

  • Explain what happens, when there are instances of indiscipline

  • Show reasons, while disciplining their children

  • Respects their children's viewpoint

General tips for discipline:

  • Understand your children's limitations, while performing their duties

  • Understand their age and stage of development

  • Be sure that you are not punishing them without any reasons

  • Set reasonable expectations

  • Never ever, yell or shout at children. But, act with a firm hand and use a language of reprimanding

  • Know what you are talking to them. B e specific as well

  • Show examples of model positive behavior

  • Be gentle and calm, while explaining the positive benefits of good behavior

  • Allow your child to experience the logical consequences of misbehavior

  • Let the consequences of bad behavior hit your children almost immediately. Please see the examples given above

  • Do not be too harsh, while you allow your children to experience the logical consequences. 


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