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Practical Tips to Develop the Right Type of Attitude in Children - Right Attitude is a Precursor to Success in Life

By Andrew Loh

Before you do anything, you should remember one simple point - ultimately, your own attitude, philosophy and mannerisms play an important role while training children for better attitude. Both of them are the most important ingredients especially, when you want to change your children for better attitude and demeanor. You may also like to know the exact meaning of the word “attitude”. Attitude could mean different things to different people and in varying contexts.

For some parents, attitude could mean better behavior from their children. On the other hand, many other parents believe that attitude is something that relates to good mannerism and staying obedient to them and others. Similarly, other parents usually think that attitude is something that signifies a child's outlook and response to changing situations. However, attitude could be the general orientation or disposition to a person or thing.


  • “His attitude towards his classroom projects is excellent! With that attitude he can finish the project within no time.”

  • “His attitude towards life is very carefree! With that kind of attitude he may never succeed in life.”

  • “He has a terrible attitude! Why can't he welcome guests with a smiling face.”

Whatever the case may be, attitude, in its general sense could relate to all those issues that were raised in the last paragraph. It could be an established way of thinking or feeling that is usually reflected in a person's behavior. The most significant thing to mention here is that the whole world does not even bother about a person's bad attitude. If a person shows his or her negative attitude in an office, the boss is sure to kick the person out of the job. If a shop owner displays his bad behavior in front of customer, he is sure to lose all of them permanently. Therefore, it is very essential that parents should train their children for better and positive attitude.

Here are some of the ways to train your children for better and positive attitude. Remember that you should try hard until you see some positive results.

Evaluate your attitude: How good is your attitude? Do you believe that you have that attitude inside that you can positively influence your children? If you have that kind of attitude, the job becomes very and simple. On the contrary, if you believe that you had some attitudinal problem in young age, look at yourself twice before working on your children. Attitude fix should start with you and you should try hard to fix your mind first before working on your children. If you are a pessimist, discard that attitude immediately. If you find negativities about everything that you see in life, it is time to kick that habit out.

Boost confidence in your children: Confidence acts like an energizing tonic! It helps your child build self-esteem and streamline better attitude. When your children are confident, they can solve any type of problems. With full confidence, children could easily develop self-confidence that eventually leads to building better attitude, systematically. Let your children try out new activities and achieve success of doing them completely. Assign them simple house chore like washing dishes, folding clothes or cleaning study tables. Once they taste the success of completing an assignment with excellence, they will start building better attitude towards work culture and ethics.

Learn how to be jovial: Family time need not be tension-filled. It could be a major event when everyone is inside the house. Learn how to be jovial with your children and they will be one with you as well. Share jokes, laugh aloud and be cheerful while talking to your children. Children tend to be very active when they are in a good mood. See that they take the life as it comes because there are many events that we cannot control including your children. Wherever, your children need dedicated effort to finish a task, they should not take it down very easily. Tell your children why working hard would bring better things in life.

Positive rewards: At times, children finish some assignments or tasks very successfully. Now, they need someone to pat their back and say “well-done”. In fact, these two sweet words act as tonic to their mind and they continue with their good work that leads to a better attitude towards hard work. You should compliment them with a big pat on the back as soon as they finish their work. You need not give them any material rewards. A simple pat on the back is enough because it works as a big attitude booster for your children.

Let your children be independent thinkers: This is perhaps one of the most important issues that you should consider when you trying to build better attitude in your children. Independent thinking always leads to sharp thinking skills and positive attitude. Allow your children some free time to build their brain as well as attitude (towards work, work culture and life).

Introduce your children to your friends and relatives: Your children should mix and gel with the society around them. Society means friends, peers, teachers, colleagues, elders and other family members. Your children should mingle with them and try to learn family and societal values. These simple actions would eventually lead to better and positive attitude.

Lastly, attitude is not a thing that your children can learn within a day or night. It is slow and a painstaking process that takes a long time.

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Don't Give Me That Attitude!: 24 Rude, Selfish, Insensitive Things Kids Do and How to Stop Them
By Michele Borba Ed.D

  • Does your kid never take no for an answer and demand things go his way?

  • Do her theatrics leave you drained at the end of the day?

  • Are you resorting to bribes and threats to get your kid to do chores?

  • Does he cheat, complain, or blame others for his problems?

  • Do you feel you're running a hotel instead of a home?

  • Are you starting to feel like your child's personal ATM machine?

What happened? You thought you were doing the best for your child and didn't set out to raise a selfish, insensitive, spoiled kid. In this book, parenting expert Michele Borba offers you an effective, practical, and hands-on approach to help you work with your child to fix that very annoying but widespread youthful characteristic, attitude.


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